the bully, the bullied, and the bystander – Hardcover Copy

An excellent book for understanding the dynamics and nature of bullying. The Calming Kids program is mentioned in the current version of this book as a positive intervention for decreasing violent behavior in children and teens.


  • A local Colorado native, Barbara Coloroso outlines the struggles children have today and offers solutions & strategies for the problem. 
  • This is an extremely helpful book that both parents and teachers can use to deal with bullying, an aspect of school that the author feels “is a life-and-death issue that we ignore at our children’s peril.”
  • The book also provides excellent insights into behaviors related to but not always recognized as bullying, such as cliques, hazing, taunting and sexual bullying.
  • This volume is perhaps best for its sections on the “bystander,” the person whose behavior is too often overlooked or excused.



“It’s the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incidents as a normal part of childhood. All it takes to understand that this is a recipe for tragedy is a glance at headlines across the country. In this updated edition of “the bully, the bullied, and the bystander”, which includes a new section on cyberbullying, one of the world’s most trusted parenting educators gives parents, caregivers, educators—and most of all, kids—the tools to break the cycle of violence.” 


“If you are a parent or teacher, you should read this book. (Education Today)

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